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SAFE-Insight Experience of My Partner Scale

SAFE-Insight Experience of My Partner Scale

The following scale asks you to rate your experience of your partner in a number of aspects of your relationship over time. In completing the scale, you are asked to read each statement and then decide, in your experience of your partner, how often that experience occurs.
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Q1. This section is interested in your experience of the way your partner communicates with you. In relation to communicating with you, your partner:
... is aware of and can express his own thoughts.(Required)
… is able to tell the difference between his own types of thoughts, e.g., whether they are remembering, or imagining, or deciding, or desiring, or planning, etc.(Required)
… is aware of and can express his own different types of emotions.(Required)
... is able to admit that his way of seeing things may not be accurate all of the time and can change his opinion.(Required)
… can see how his own thoughts and/or emotions impact on the way he views situations and his behaviour.(Required)
… can see that there is a pattern in the way he thinks over time and how he has come to think and feel this way.(Required)
...demonstrates a complete understanding of how all of his experiences have led him to be the person he is.(Required)
...demonstrates a complete understanding of how his thoughts and actions impact upon others.(Required)
Q2. This section is interested in your experience of your partner’s understanding of you. In relation to understanding you, your partner:
… is aware that I have my own thoughts and feelings.(Required)
… is aware that I have my own dreams, wishes, desires, fantasies, memories, anticipations, etc.(Required)
… understands that I experience different emotions that might be different to theirs.(Required)
… is able to make reasonable interpretations of what I am thinking and/or feeling from what he sees from my attitude or behaviour.(Required)
… can see how my own thoughts and/or feelings impact on the way I might view a situation and then how I might react.(Required)
… demonstrates a complete understanding how all of my experiences over time have led to me being the person I am.(Required)
Q3. This section is interested in your experience of your partner’s understanding that your life, interests and motivations are separate from his. In relation to understanding different perspectives, your partner:
… takes everything I say, or do, personally, no matter how much I try to explain to him otherwise.(Required)
... recognises that I have thoughts, feelings and behaviour which might be different to his.(Required)
... recognises that my thoughts, feelings, and behaviour are a result of my own desires and wishes that might have nothing to do with him or our relationship.(Required)
… recognises that there are multiple ways of viewing a situation and he respects my view on things.(Required)
… understands that everyone is different and independent but can also see how we are all connected.(Required)
Q4. This section is interested in your experience of your partner’s behaviour in dealing with conflict in your relationship. In relation to conflict, my partner:
… mostly denies there is a problem.(Required)
… mostly blames me or something else for the problem.(Required)
… tries different things to deal with the situation rather than avoiding it.(Required)
… is able to alter his thinking about the problem which helps them deal with the situation more effectively.(Required)
... is able to modify his beliefs and expectations that contribute to the development and maintenance of a problem.(Required)
... is able to cope effectively with the problem by understanding the relationship between his own thoughts, feelings, and behaviour and my own thoughts, feelings, and behaviour.(Required)
... understands that there are a number of factors involved with how a problem arises. He is able to see the bigger picture and resort to different strategies to help resolve the problem(Required)